The Blogg Daddy is moving!!

Hey all,
In trying to keep up with the Jones', I have completely renovated this blog and have made it more user friendly, easier to navigate, and more appealing to the eyes.
As part of this move, I also took the opportunity to change the name and theme of the blog slightly.
See it all for yourself at The Dad Jam (http://thedadjam.com)
Please update your links if you link to me or have my link saved somewhere.
Hope you enjoy the new site!
Cheers,
Your Head Jammer at The Dad Jam

An innovative and bizarre idea for a baby bottle

I came across this image on the web yesterday and just had to write about it. Is it not the most bizarre looking baby bottle (or bottle in general) that you have ever seen?
This is an idea from "Design Continuum" - they are working on developing a customized nipple bottle, that will look similar to what you see in the picture.
And get this - the nipple will be custom made based on a 3-D scan of the mother's breast!
It is also oriented upside down to better simulate the breast feeding position.
It hasn't been released yet, but the idea is still being researched.
We never bottle-fed our first child and so far haven't tried bottle-feeding our second, and we don't plan to. We have been lucky enough that breastfeeding has gone very well, so haven't had a need to bottle-feed.
With our first child, we did try a bottle on one occassion (with pumped milk) when he was about 8 or 9 months old, to see if he would take it, but he didn't. Perhaps if we had this he would have?
This image and idea raise many questions in my mind. Would I feel like I am "fooling" my baby if I used this? Would I be comfortable walking around in public flashing an exact replica of my wife's nipple around? Would I be tempted to "experiment" with it myself, to see how close to the real thing it is (jokes)?
In any case, it definitely is an innovative idea, no matter how bizarre it looks. Perhaps parents who really want to give their baby the feeling of being breastfed, but are unable to breastfeed for whatever reason, will find this a wonderful alternative.
Appreciate your thoughts! Cheers.

Who is parenting who?

Hi all,
I find it quite scary sometimes that my two year old son sometimes sounds like I do when he talks to me. If I do something that he doesn't like or want me to do at that particular moment (such as talk to my wife, or eat), he will firmly tell me not to do it. He does this using the same language and tone of voice that I use when I tell him not to do something that I don't want him to do (such as hit the cat, or throw food on the floor). And why wouldn't he? This is the way he has learned from my example to handle such situations. What to do, besides taking a vacation?
I accept that fact that my son sometimes talks to me the same way I talk to him, because, like I said, he has learned this from me, and being only two, he doesn't know any other way, besides the ways that I teach him.
But listening to him in these situations causes me to pause and reflect on my own handling of situations where I would like him to stop doing something. I often try now to approach such situations with a different tone of voice, and different use of words.
Rather than saying, "Don't do..." I try and say what he should do. For example: "Don't put the cat in the oven" = old me... and, "Try petting the cat nicely while it is lying on the floor" = new me.
I have read in several books that this is the better approach anyways. Children (and adults too) ignore the negating pieces of sentences (i.e. we ignore the "don't"). For example, if I say to you, "Don't think of a pink elephant," the first thing you do is think of a pink elephant. So when we say to our kids, "Don't draw on the walls," you can be sure your walls will very quickly be many shades of red, blue and purple.
The other big question I ask myself is how often I should let my boy get his way. If he asks me not to do something that he doesn't want me to do, and I don't listen to him, why should he listen to me next time I ask him to "Pet the cat only"? He is still too young to understand that he always has to listen to me "because I am the father and I know better" and I don't necessarily have to listen to him.
So, I try and negotiate where I can. Of course, on big ticket items, there is no negotiation. But on small things, I am open to negotiate and sometimes give in to his requests. I think this helps in the long run, because if he feels that I take him and his requests seriously, he is more likely to do the same with me and my requests.
Definitely something to think about, and I am still honing my skills in this area, so if you have any comments on what has and has not worked for you in this space, please leave a comment!

Thoughts on how to help the wife

I was inspired to write this post because I sometimes struggle with what to do in situations where it is clear that your help is needed, but you are not sure exactly what to do to help. Of course, asking, "What can I do to help?" might be one obvious strategy to figure out what you can do, such questions may often result in replies such as "Isn't it obvious?" or "It's already too late!" in times of stress or crisis.
So, I have pondered what we husbands and fathers can do to help out our wives in times of need. I have come up with a few of the following ideas or thoughts:
1) Change the diaper - see my post on projectile poo-poo before attempting this task. Changing the diaper is something my wife really appreciates me doing, for obvious reasons.
2) Bring her a drink - women tend to get thirsty while breastfeeding (need to compensate for the loss of fluids I guess), so while she is breastfeeding, bring her a drink. She will love you for it.
3) Be there to lend a hand - when you are trying to change a diaper, clean up projectile poo-poo and calm the baby simultaneously at 4am, two hands are just not enough. So be there to lend an extra hand or two to help out.
4) Bring her what she needs - sometimes a cloth or blanket is needed that was accidently left on the other side of the room or in another room, or a wet cloth is needed to wipe something up. Be ready to go get these things and haul them over.
5) Take the baby out for a walk - if the baby has been fed and diaper changed, you can easily take the baby out by yourself for a walk. If you are like me, you put the baby in a sling, go for a walk outside, and with the steady movement and fresh air, your baby is asleep in no time. You get some time to have a walk while your baby sleeps (and maybe go for a coffee or something) and your wife has a break during which she can do whatever she wants, without having to worry about the baby waking up (she will probably sleep).
6) Clean up around the house - if time permits, you can be a big help by cleaning up around the house a bit. Or just hire some cleaning staff.
If any of you out there have additional ideas (both moms and dads who are reading this), feel free to leave them here as comments! To the moms - what is the one thing that your husband can or could do to help? To the dads - what do you do to help out your wife?
Till next time, happy diaper changing,
TBD

Money doesn't grow on trees

Well, we've probably all heard our parents tell us that "Money doesn't grow on trees" and we will probably tell our kids the same thing a several dozen times (or more) during their child and teenager-hood.
Although money unfortunately doesn't grow on trees, it does grow in the bank. And while many new fathers out there are probably spending most of their time trying to get their head around fatherhood, changing diapers, calming fussiness, when they will get to sleep next, and the such, it is also a good time to start thinking about starting up a savings (such as an educations savings, or RESP) plan for that new little wee one.
The reason I say this is because the sooner you start one, the more time it will have to grow. This will result in more money when you will need it most... at college/university time!
With our son, we started pretty late, but with our daughter, we are going to start very soon.
There are lots of good plans out there, so go talk to your bank or look around on the internet to see what plans different banks have to offer.
I know in Canada at least, contributions to a registered educations savings plan (RESP) are tax-sheltered and a percentage of your contributions are matched by the government, depending on your income (e.g. for every dollar you contribute, the government contributes 20 cents). Those are two additional incentives to start one up. This is an opportunity to pay fewer taxes and get free money from the government, so I say go for it!
So just wanted to post this little reminder to all you new dads out there to say, when your mind is not in too much of a blur from everything else that has been going on following your new little arrival, start thinking about a savings plan... your children will thank you for it when they are older and you will thank yourself too I am sure.
Until next time, hope you are getting some rest,
TBD

I've been added to Alltop!

Hey all... a quick, exciting piece of news... I am now among the best of the best and the creme de la creme at Alltop. You'll find a link to my blog/blogg at http://dads.alltop.com ... now I am in the great company of other well known blogging dads. Now I have the feeling that I really need to step it up a notch... will do my best!

Cheers,

TBD

Good books for fathers and parents

Hi all,
Just had a thought today that I might need to go back to my fatherhood and parenting reading material... my son has really been exerting his independence lately, so gotta remind myself what to do in these situations! Today, for the first time, he was really keen on telling me and my wife to do: "Don't change the bed sheets!" to me, and when my wife tried to feed our newborn, "Don't feed her!" This of course, combined with lots of whining, kicking and screaming. Joy oh joy. Well, I think he was really tired and the feelings of slight jealousy towards his baby sister were starting to creep in. He is good most of the time though, and in the end we managed to get him to conclude that his baby sister can't drink orange juice and can't eat cookies, so she has to drink milk. It is always great to add a bit of sound logic to the situation to help smooth things over.
Nevertheless, it may be time to hit the books again. Here are two books that I found to be excellent and worth reading:
1) The Complete Secrets of Happy Children, by Steve Biddulph. This is actually two books in one... The Secrets of Happy Children, and its follow-up, the appropriately titled, More Secrets of Happy Children. This book gives lots of practical tips on parenthood, being a dad, the correct language to use when talking to your children, disciplining, soft love, firm love and special considerations for raising boys and raising girls. There are many good tips and ideas in its pages. We have used and applied many of his ideas with our kids, and he really gives you a lot to think about.
2) The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families, by Stephen Covey. Need I say more than Stephen Covey. I mean, Stephen Covey, loving father of nine children plus highly successful entrepreneur. That says it all. If you haven't heard of the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, please get out of the hole you are under and google it right now and then buy it. Then get this follow-up, where he applies the Seven Habits specifically to family life and parenting. Especially since he is a father, who also managed a career, there are many great pieces of advice for fathers here on how to cope and be a terrific father that your kids will love. He has so many great ideas and thoughts. There are lots and lots of great stories in this book from his own experience (he had enough of them, with nine kids and all). This includes the classic "green and clean" story, which is worth the price of the book alone in my opinion.
So I think I may re-read these books, cuz the time seems right to do so. If any of you out there have ideas for good books for me to read, please leave a comment and let me know. And if you have read the above books and have an opinion about them, feel free to leave it here!
Happy reading,
TBD

10 more minutes, 5 more minutes...

Hi all,
Just a quick one today cuz I am heading to bed soon.... gotta get as much sleep as possible in case our daughter wakes up in the night. She is usually pretty good, but the other night she was up for about an hour from 3am to 4am, so in case the wind is not blowing in the right direction or the moon is shining the wrong way again tonight, I need to be prepared and rested!
Wanted to share with you our usual technique for leaving places that our son does not want to leave. I find a lot of parents use this technique, and it generally works well, so you probably know about it already or at least have seen it in action, so here goes...
Trying to get our son to leave the playground is like trying to get Paris Hilton to leave a party full of cool people. It just ain't happening, or at least any time soon.
The only way we have a remote chance of getting him away from his favourite places without a major drama is to do the countdown.
In case you are new to the countdown, it goes like this:
Step 1:
Say: "Okay, , we are going to go in 10 minutes okay? Do you understand? 10 more minutes." (proceed to obtain acknowledgement from child, if you can turn their attention away from the sandbox, slide, climbing bars, what have you, for a split second).
Step 2:
Wait 5 minutes.
Step 3:
Repeat step 1, inserting "5 minutes" in place of "10 minutes"
Step 4:
Wait 3 minutes.
Step 5:
Repeat step 1, inserting "2 minutes" in place of "10 minutes"
Step 6:
Wait 1 minute.
Step 7:
Repeat step 1, inserting "1 minute" in place of "10 minutes"
Step 8:
Wait 1 minute.
Step 9:
Say: "Okay, it's time to go! Let's go!"

Seems like a bit much? I agree! But sometimes this is the only thing that works. I have found that if I just skip to step 9 without doing steps 1-8 first, I have a much lower chance of being able to leave without a drama. It's kinda like trying to bake a cake without breaking the eggs first... you end up with a real funny looking cake that don't taste too good.
Alrighty, I'm off to bed folks. Till next time,
TBD

Some favourite bedtime books

Put my son to bed tonight and all went well. See my post on our bedtime routines, it works for us 99% of the time.
This made me think of sharing some of our favourite bedtime stories with you. We have a few that we usually choose from.
One of the best features common to all of these books is that there is some degree of repetition (I guess that is common to a lot of children's books). What our son like about this repetition is that he can memorize certain sentences and know when they are coming up, so reading the book together becomes and interactive experience that he really enjoys.
Here are the books currently at the top of our bedtime list:
1) The Gruffalo, by Julia Donaldson - recommended for children 2 years and up. This is a classic book with a nice story about a quick-thinking mouse that outwits a fox, an owl, a snake and of course, a Gruffalo! It has good repetition of certain elements, and the sentences in the story also rhyme (in an AABBCC... fashion), so after just a couple of times reading this, our son could already start to complete some sentences on his own as I was reading them.
2) Wanted: The Great Cookie Thief, A Sesame Street book - this one is a bit hard to find but can still be found online. Our copy is actually the copy that I had when I was just a young tike, so reading this brings back memories of my childhood. Our son also loves it because it is about one of his favourite topics... cookies... and it also has some repetitive aspects, so he can predict what is going to happen next.
3) Room on the Broom, by Julia Donaldson - another one by the author of The Gruffalo. We actually bought this one first and liked it so much that we bought the Gruffalo. This is a really nice story about a witch that takes a dog, a bird and a frog with her on her broom, along with her cat, and when they meet up with a dragon, they all help to rescue her. There is a great theme of friendship and cooperation. Like the Gruffalo, this story rhymes and has repetition, so we can have a good interactive read.
4) The Ernie and Bert Book, A Sesame Street Book - like the Great Cookie Thief, this is another classic from my childhood that our son loves. It can still be found online, not sure if it is in any stores any longer. This one was at the top of our list for awhile. Our son practically had it memorised because we read it so many times. This is the story of what happens when Ernie broke the piggy bank, so he had to put the money in the cookie jar, and the cookies in the milk bottle, and the milk in the... you get the idea. It goes on like this and is lots of fun.
5) Speedy Fire Engine, A Wheelie Boards Book. This book is shaped like a fire engine and has wheels. It is a simple story that rhymes. It is just a few pages about a fire engine that quickly goes to put out a fire. I think our son mostly likes this one because he likes fire trucks. Today he kept repeating, "Speedy Fire Engine!" about a million times. He also likes to turn the wheels on this book as I am reading it to him.
So that is our current top five... I would definitely recommend checking these out if you are looking for some new books for your kids and don't have these already.

More thoughts on calming a crying or fussy baby

Well, our daughter has had a bit of evening fussiness lately, so I have been spending a few of my past evenings helping to calm her to sleep. So, since this is the freshest topic on my mind, I thought I would dedicate this post to a few more thoughts on calming a crying or fussy baby.

1) Using swaddling and white noise techniques, combined with placing the baby along your arm on its side (holding his/her head in your hand) to trigger the calming reflex, works really well. These techniques are described really well and in detail on the "Happiest Baby on the Block" DVD by Dr. Karp. See my post on this DVD for further details.
2) Swaddling and white noise combined with carrying the baby upright with his/her head close to your chest/heart also works really well. This works especially well for me if I use techniques to keep myself calm and relaxed at the same time. See my post on my "Aha" moment.
3) Carrying our baby around in our sling works really well, and it is similar to point 2 above, because when she is wrapped in the sling, it is similar to being swaddled. She is nice and cosy and often falls asleep after we walk around with her in the sling for awhile. I did this earlier today when I went out with her and my son again, and I was pleasantly pleased because she fell asleep quite quickly and slept the entire time (about two hours). Gave me a chance to pick up and enjoy a chocolate blended creme frappucino, while my boy enjoyed a donut (chocolate of course... think he takes after me)!
4) We have an elliptical trainer, and my wife has found that carrying our daughter in the sling while riding the elliptical trainer works really well. The sound of the trainer, combined with the flowing, rhythmic motion, had a very calming effect. My wife was happy because she gets to exercise at the same time! (compare this to me, who takes the opportunity to go get chocolate)!
5) Choosing the right colours can have a calming effect - it has been found that blues and greens are the most calming colours, while yellows tend to cause fussiness. So if you are trying to calm a fussy baby, move out of a yellow room and into a blue or green one! Notice that our sling is also blue!
6) Making sure the baby has burped or trying to help the baby to burp can help to relieve the fussiness. Always burp the baby after feeding him/her. This can be done by holding the baby upright to your chest or over your shoulder and gently patting his/her back.
7) Checking the diaper is a good idea too, of course... sometimes a clean diaper can make the difference between a fussy baby and a calm baby.
Hope you found something you can use! Take care for now, time for some rest for me!
TBD

What would we do without our Didymos?

We carry our newborn in a Didymos Sling wherever we go. We used the same sling with our first born as well. The amount of mileage we have gotten out of it so far is probably the equivalent of walking to the moon and back. It has paid for itself a million times over, and we still plan on getting at least another good year out of it.
There are lots of slings on the market. I can only speak for the Didymos because that is the only one I have tried, because we heard from many other parents that it is the best. We have an African Baby Carrier as well, but we don't use it so much. We found it a bit harder to use, and less versatile, and overall our son didn't like it as much as the sling.
What I like about the Didymos sling is that it is very high quality and very versatile. You can tell that it is a quality product just by holding it. We bought ours used, and used it a lot with our first born, and are using it a lot with our newborn. It still looks and feels new. It does not show any signs of wear or over stretching. There are a number of different ways that you can use the sling to wrap your child, and you can use it right from birth to at least 12 months. You can do everything from a hammock type of wrap, to a front wrap, to a backpack wrap. See this website for some details about how the wrap is made and some pictures http://www.extraordinarybabyshoppe.com/didymosPage.html. I have also included a couple of pictures of us using our didymos in this post.
I admit it is a bit difficult to learn how to do some of the wraps and I was more nervous than a nervous person the first time I tried it. But the more you do it, the better you get at it. Now I can wrap our newborn faster than a Wrapanini worker can wrap a wrap.
Our first born loved the sling (at least as much as he now loves chocolate), and it seems that our newborn loves it too. It is a place for the child to be close to the parent, all warm and cosy. It is very calming for them, so much so that we usually use it as a calming technique when all else fails. I will write a bit more about that in another post.
So, just felt like praising the wrap here, because I used it with my newborn today and I was so happy. I took her and my son out together, alone, for the first time, and she slept right by my side in the wrap the whole time and I still had my hands and legs free to chase after my toddler son and sip a coffee at the same time! It doesn't get any better than that!
So if you are looking to try carrying your baby in a sling, I say it is a great thing to do, and the Didymos is a great way to do it!
Cheers,
TBD

Toddler Bedtime Routine

Hi all,
I am sure many parents out there are searching for the perfect bedtime routine, so they can get the kids to bed and have a moment of serenity. I know we searched for one at first!
It took us awhile to come up with our bedtime routine, and now that we have one, we use it on a "routine basis" (pun intended)... Actually we use it every night and it works very nicely with great success. We use it with our almost 29 month old son, and he knows exactly what to expect with this routine, and it is a perfect signal to him that it is bedtime.
In preparation for our daughter's birth, I started doing this routine with him, knowing that my wife wouldn't always be available to put our son to bed, due to nursing duties with our daughter. Quite ironically (sorry, don't want to quote Alanis Morissette here), since our daughter was born, our son wants my wife to do the routine with him more often. This is understandable, since he wants to have some special one-on-one time with her.

So the routine goes like this:
1) Time to take a bath and brush your teeth. The bath is sometimes left out if he is not very dirty. In that case we just brush his teeth. If giving him a bath, I brush his teeth while he is in the bath. See also my posting on tooth brushing.
2) Time to wash your face and hands. This step is only if we didn't give him a bath.
3) Dry down and run under the bed covers! (this is his favourite part)
4) Put on bedtime gear/pyjamas/t-shirt, depending on how hot it is.
5) Close the blinds together (he sometimes wants to do this all by himself - that is okay, I let him).
6) Time to read a book... we generally read the same books to him each bedtime, or he chooses one out of about four typical bedtime books. I will write another posting on books we like.
7) Read the book one time.
8) Read the book a second time (before starting to read the book a second time, he always says "again? last time... then sleep." ... it was me who got him saying this, because I always said, "last time, then sleep" to him before starting to read the book a second time) - we don't read "war and peace" or "the lord of the rings" to him or anything like that, so it is not a big deal to read the book a second time.
9) Turn off the bedside lamp (he turns it off by himself).
10) Sing him a bedtime song/lullaby. He usually falls asleep during the singing. I always sing the same lullaby, "Hush little baby," my wife uses a different one.

That is it, our 10 step program to a good night's rest! It may sound long, complicated and elaborate, but it actually goes by really quickly and flows very naturally.
So if you are in need of a bedtime routine, I welcome you to try adapting this one to your needs, or take the steps that might fit for you and create your own routine out of it. Appreciate any comments you have!
Wishing you many nights of uninterrupted sleep,
TBD

Just had an "aha" moment!

Hey all,
Didn't think I was going to get to this blog entry tonight... it is getting late and our newborn daughter has had some difficulty getting settled and to sleep tonight. So I have spent the past two hours on and off using our calming techniques.
In a previous post I mentioned "The Happiest Baby on the Block" and the calming techniques used on the DVD of the same name. One of the techniques, combined with swaddling, is "Shushing" or creating "white noise" by making a gentle shushing sound. The theory behind this is that it creates a noise similar to what the baby is used to hearing from being in the womb, so it has a soothing effect.
So tonight I spent a lot of time holding her up to my chest and walking and rocking and gently shushing. I felt all shushed out at one point to say the least, and felt like I had shushed more than the ocean on a very breezy day.
That is when I had my "aha" moment! I was so focused on making my daughter calm and making shushing sounds for her, that I was completely wearing myself out and making myself more stressed in the process. She could also probably sense that I was stressed, so it was more difficult for her to relax.
So I thought, why not make the calming techniques work for me, rather than against me? I shifted the focus of the calming to myself (sorry if that sounds selfish). While rocking and shushing my daughter, I closed my eyes and imagined that I was in a hammock by the ocean and the shushing sound was the ocean breeze. This immediately calmed me and kept me calm and relaxed, and at the same time it kept my daughter calm and relaxed. As I became more relaxed, she could also sense that I was more relaxed, which further relaxed her. I had a virtuous cycle going, rather than a vicious one!
I really feel good about this discovery, so had to share it with you all right away! Try it out, it definitely helps!
Now off to bed,
TBD

Don't have black teeth

Hi all,
This post is about tooth brushing... and in general, how to get your child to do important things that he or she doesn't necessarily always want to do.
My son isn't very enthusiastic about brushing his teeth. Eating chocolate, drinking orange juice and chewing gum are all not problems, but tooth brushing can sometimes be a drama.
We find he is most responsive and willing to brush his teeth when we (or I) tell him that if he doesn't brush his teeth, he will get black teeth and they will really hurt (be "Ouwwah" or "Ouchy"). He usually responds by saying, "no black teeth... be ouwwah!" and opening his mouth really wide to let us brush his teeth.
It really works well, but some of you out there may be wondering how ethical this approach is. But I think of it this way... I am not lying to him. In fact, I am telling the absolute truth... that is, if he doesn't brush his teeth, they will get cavities and hurt. I think he needs to understand that. Isn't that our motivation for brushing our teeth? Is there anybody out there who actually enjoys brushing his or her teeth and would do it voluntarily, if not doing it had no consequences?
Is this approach any worse than telling a child that Santa Claus will not come if he or she misbehaves? I find telling the child the real consequence can be a good and effective approach.
Some more examples: if you don't wear your helmet when you ride your bike, you will hurt your head if you fall down and it will really hurt. If you don't wear your hat in the sun, you will get a sunburn on your head... you need to protect your head from the sun.
Our son always wears his helmet and hat when we ask him to, because he understands why he needs to.
So many times I have seen parents tell their kids to do something, "because I said so"... and then wonder why the kids don't listen or don't do it. I think when the child understands the real reasons (i.e. not because of Santa Claus) why we are asking them to do (or not do) certain things, he or she is much more likely to listen.
So think about this the next time your child doesn't want to brush his or her teeth or wear his or her hat. Try pulling out the real consequence card before you pull out the Santa Claus card.
You might feel bad about telling them the real consequences, but in my opinion, it is not something to feel bad about... you are not lying, and if you don't tell them, they will end up finding out the consequences the hard way, when they actually do get a tooth cavity or a sunburn on their head!
Take care and happy napping,
TBD

Thoughts on Home Birth

For the birth of our second child, who is now 12 days old, we opted to have a home birth. This photo was taken less than an hour after the birth, in the comfort of our home.
Although a home birth may not be for everyone, it was something we really wanted to do (after all, what is better than being able to check your email via wireless during labour? just kidding ;-) ).
Seriously speaking, we are really really glad that we were able to have a home birth and it was a wonderful experience for the whole family.
Here is a bit about what I learned, in case you are also considering having a home birth.

1) The success rate of home births (i.e. not needing to go to the hospital part way through labour), is much greater for second and subsequent children, compared to the first child.
2) It is fairly easy to prepare for a home birth - some things you need are: a flashlight, extra towels, absorbent pads, gauze, a shower curtain to lie on your bed under your sheets to protect your mattress, some extra bed sheets, and birth aids, such as epsom salts (although we didn't use them).
3) The way it worked for us (in Vancouver, Canada), is that two midwives come to your home during the delivery. One midwife comes first during the early stages of labour, and brings all the necessary equipment, and the other midwife comes as the time of birth approaches, to assist with the birth and after birth activities.
4) It is fairly common for the labour to start getting stronger after the first child is asleep in bed. That is what happened with us, and was perfect timing. Also, our son woke up after the baby was born, which was also very nice, because he could immediately see the new addition to the family as well. He was very excited about this (although he was also very tired).
5) Generally you can only have a home birth if the baby is not in breech position and after week 37 - so you shouldn't buy the stuff you need for a home birth too early.
6) Our midwives were from Pacific Midwifery in Vancouver, and I must say they provided excellent service and did a really great job, including during the pregnancy, during birth, and after birth. It could not have been better. We had regular appointments with them during pregnancy and after, including house visits.
7) You don't necessarily need a doctor or a hospital to give birth... birth is something natural and it is not an illness! If you have no complications and are a low risk pregnancy, everything should go fine and there is a high home birth success rate, especially if it is your second child.
8) You can even do a water birth at home (requires buying some extra stuff - we didn't do it, but I didn't know it was possible until recently!).

I find one of the nicest things is that our daughter was born in the same room that she now spends a lot of time in (our room - her crib is in our room), and we didn't have to transport her around through foreign places so shortly after her birth. She was able to spend her first moments in the same calming atmosphere that she now sleeps in. This is really great.
So, if you are thinking of having a home birth and it is possible where you live, give it some thought. Of course, I am no expert, so check with your local midwives and doctors/hospitals to see what options you have available and what they can recommend.

Until next time,
TBD

Losing my marbles

I looked around on the internet today for other blogs or websites that provide advice and tips for fathers by fathers and couldn't really find much... so I am glad I started this blog (or blogg), because I think it will be a really useful resource for parents and fathers. My aim is to give practical advice and tips with a bit of humor included, so that other parents and fathers can benefit and know they are not alone in this adventure. I welcome any feedback you have!
I also plan on giving Vancouver specific tips, because I have lots of ideas for things for fathers or parents to do with their kids in Vancouver... so if you live in Vancouver, stay tuned for those posts.
I wanted to share my experiences with a new toy we bought recently for our son... the "Marble Run" by Quercetti.
We bought this for him as a gift from our new daughter when she was born, because we thought it would help with their relationship with each other. We were happy to tell him that the new baby is giving him a gift, and he was happy to receive it. I think it was a nice gesture that went over well.
Now to the marble run... I was told that the Quercetti brand Marble Run is the best brand and the most stable compared to other marble runs. Also, with Quercetti I was told that the marble tends to get stuck less often than with other marble runs.
I have seen some wooden marble run sets that look very stable, but they are much more expensive than this plastic version. This one is made in Italy, and it is overall quite good. It can still be a bit unstable at times, but it also depends on how you build it - if you are not careful, it may seem that it was inspired by the leaning tower of Pisa.
The marbles do not get stuck very often, just sometimes if it is crooked they can get stuck, but nothing major.
As far as fun factor goes, this is a fun toy and our son and his friends love it (for the times our son is willing to share it!), it is fun for them to watch the marbles go down and try and stop them along the way. Playing with this usually keeps him busy for about 1o-15 minutes at a time, which is pretty good for him. He plays with it a few times a day.
There is also a fun factor for parents, because I find building it and coming up with new designs and pathways for the marbles can be pretty fun. Once the kids are a bit older and can build it themselves, this will be pretty educational for them.
My only complaint is that it can be pretty easy to knock over, and can break apart pretty easily when knocked over. I have had to rebuild it a few times already.
The other complaint I have is that the marbles are really easy to lose (at least in our home), and without the marbles, you can't really use it. The company was generous enough to include 12 marbles in the set that we bought, but honestly after having this for 10 days we are down to 1, yes, one, marble and I have no idea where the other marbles are. I have checked every nook and cranny of our home. Usually they were under the couch, but I can't even find any there anymore. Not sure if my son is aspiring to become a magician, but he would do well!
So, I have literally lost my marbles... but hopefully I will get them back one day soon.
Hopefully I can find a place to buy more marbles that are the right size... a pack of 100 would be nice, and should last about a month or so :-)
Until next time, happy parenting,
TBD

Watch out! Projectile Poo-Poo!

Hey all,
Just a quick post for today because I gotta get to bed soon for whatever highly valuable moments of sleep I can smidgen together.
I was changing my 10 day old daughter's diaper today and was amazed at the speed, force and distance achieved by her projectile poo-poos.
She had the perfect timing...managing to do it right when I put my guard down and wasn't covering her up with anything. So of course, poo went flying everywhere. Luckily I was wise enough and had laid her on a very large towel.
So to all you soon-to-be dads, take heed to my story and always make sure to be on the look-out for those projectile poos!
Until next time, I wish you much rest,
TBD